This first list is from the perspective of two birth mothers. The second set is from the perspective of two adoptive parents. Let us know what truths you would add to these lists from your own perspective.
Birth Mothers’ Point of View
- Adoption is a hard thing to do.
- Adoption is really hard.
- Adoption is extremely hard.
- Adoption is heartbreaking, gut-wrenching, and excruciatingly painful.
- Adoption is experiencing an unmeasurable amount of love for a tiny little person.
- Saying the initial “goodbye” to your child isn’t for the weak. The experience will make or break you.
- If you have a good support group, it does make it easier to get through the placement process.
- It’s a traumatic experience.
- Some birth moms will say that placing their child for adoption is similar to the death of a baby, and they will go through the five stages of grieving.
- Every adoption is different.
Adoptive Parents’ Point of View
- Adopting is a beautiful gift that allows others the opportunity to be parents, that might otherwise not have the chance.
- Adoption gives even more people a chance to love the adopted child.
- It’s a roller coaster of emotions. So many ups and downs.
- It’s hard to watch the birth parent say goodbye to the child they just gave birth to.
- The adopted child, will at some point need their birth parent(s) to help them understand, everything.
- Open adoptions can be beautiful if done with boundaries.
- Open communication, between birth and adoptive parents, is essential.
- It’s one of the hardest things, but also one the most rewarding things you’ll ever do.
- You will absolutely love your adopted child just as much as your biological child.
- An agency isn’t necessary for all adoptions. With social media and a good attorney, domestic adoptions can be easier and more affordable. But if you need one, there is an excellent one here.
*This list compiles views of ONLY the birth and adoptive parents I spoke with.